Today I’m sharing my recent pregnancy pet peeves. I wasn’t planning on sharing this post until later in my pregnancy (end of second/going into my third trimester), but felt good about sharing it with you all now. If you read my Let’s Talk Babies blogpost awhile back, then you know what I mean by some of these pet peeves I’m about to share.
MY PREGNANCY PET PEEVES:
PEOPLE SHARING THEIR HORRIBLE EXPERIENCES – Here’s the thing, If you’re going to congratulate us, don’t then hit us with your horror baby stories. Save it for another time or if and when asked. Don’t say “congrats!” and then “oh you’re in for a rude awakening!” or “say goodbye to your social life!” Don’t be such a joy kill, seriously.
SO WAS THIS PREGNANCY PLANNED? “Sure was Helen. George and I took out our calendar and picked a date that best fit our schedule and wham, bam, thank you ma’am!“ Insert sarcasm here, here – oh and here. This questions is so personal, so intimate and should not be asked, especially if you don’t know the person very well. I feel the same about this question as I do when people ask “So when are you going to have children?” – because what you’re really asking is when are you going to have unprotected sex. Am I right or am I right? It’s ok to ask “do you want to have children?”, but when you begin to ask the whens or why nots or how comes, that’s when it becomes too overwhelming. These are private questions and quite honestly none of anyone’s business.
TOUCHING THE BUMP – I don’t know why I don’t like this one very much. To be honest, it kinda gives me anxiety. The only person I don’t mind touching my belly is George, obviously, and a hand full of people. I think it’s so strange for someone to just reach over without asking to touch your belly, especially strangers or people you barely know. Touching someone’s body without asking is weird to me. I get it. Peoples’ intentions mean well; however, you should still ask before. I don’t know, maybe once my bump grows, I’ll feel differently about people touching my belly, but for now I would prefer for people to ask before reaching over.
BUMP SIZE – Everyone carries differently and everyone’s bodies are not the same. It’s not very nice to say that someone looks smaller or bigger than what they should be. Stop judging the bump size.
IS IT SAFE TO WORKOUT? – Again, everyone’s bodies are different – and as long as my doctor has given me the approval to continue working out, I will do just that. I obviously listen to my body, so when I am feeling tired, I do stop and take breaks. I am being careful and I am only doing exercises that were approved by my doctor. I’m not working out to be a bodybuilder. I’m working out to stay healthy and have an easier labor experience. My doctor encouraged me to work out before I was pregnant and still does, so until they say otherwise, I will continue to take my sweet little butt to the gym as long as I can.
IF YOU’RE NOT GOING TO SAY SOMETHING NICE, DON’T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL – This goes back to my baby blogpost here. If you just found out someone is pregnant (or in my case ME), don’t comment with “Finally” or “It’s about time you got pregnant.” It’s rude and unnecessary. You just never know if that person was having a hard time conceiving, and those comments may be hurtful. I’m not saying I had issues getting pregnant. What I am saying is that you never know what someone is going through just because they weren’t open about certain things in their life. Everyone is different, and what I decide to share publicly is one thing and what I keep private is another. Be careful what you say, and choose your words wisely. The pressure about babies was already so overwhelming enough, so these comments can really hurt someone.
I’m curious to know if any moms or moms-to-be out there can relate to the above. I’d love to hear your stories and pet peeves.
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