Let’s Talk Babies

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 When are you having kids? Do you want any kids? How many do you want? OMG you would be an amazing mom though. Why not?! You HAVE to have kids. Don’t be selfish! That’s not fair. Clock’s ticking. You’re not getting any younger. Well my coworker’s friend Susan has been trying to have children and she’s been having a hard time getting pregnant. Mel, what’s going to happen if you can’t get pregnant?

O M G!!! OMFG! Stop! Leave me alone! Can I live?! Story of my life.

You don’t hear me saying “When are you going to get rid of that “baby weight”, Cheryl? Jacob’s almost 5?” Most will disagree with me on this comment, and say it’s totally not the same. If you really think about it though, it kind of is. Just like most would feel offended to be pressured into losing weight, most feel the same about getting pregnant. You do not know what that person is going through or their struggles-  if any. Whether your intentions mean well or not, it usually comes off that way. Call it what you want to call it, but most people take this baby topic so lightly as it is no big deal to just blurt out “when are you having kids” and put in your two cents that “you’re not getting any younger” “clock is ticking” as If I was born yesterday. “No s*** Helen. I had no idea I was getting older every year. Thank goodness I have you to remind me otherwise, what on earth would I do?!”

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I’m going to get into the most exhausting, annoying, eye-rolling topic of my life. This whole baby talk has been weighing over me for what seems like forever, and I want to share my thoughts and address it. So have a seat. Get comfortable. Stay awhile because it’s going to be a long one.

Ready? Ok, let’s get into it… Let’s talk babies, shall we.

 

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Taking it back to high school:  Everyone around me seemed to have had it all figured out. “Once I find the one, we’re going to get married and have kids right away because I want to be a young mom.” – God forbid you’re 30 and barely having your first child. OMG so old! (insert eye-rolling emoji here). 

Most girls have that first-comes-love-then-comes-marriage mentality and think that, that is how everyone should live by. I disagree. Why can’t people live their entire lives without children? And not be called selfish? Why do people assume you have to have children once you’re married? Who said this is the way everyone needs to live their life? Why can’t being in a relationship with or without children be the norm? Without having that shocking look on your face as if something terrible just happened? Why is it so frowned upon? WHY?

Fast forward to college: Still not a clue in the world as to what I was doing. Clueless college student? Pretty normal if you ask me. Trying to figure out what I’m doing – career-wise, relationship-wise, etc… Still no desire to be a mother – quite possibly the only thing I was certain of… Is that so wrong? Don’t get me wrong children are awesome, but I had zero intention to have them. I never had that motherly instinct nor desire to have one. What is wrong with me? Is something wrong with me?

2014: Engaged. Over the moon. Happy, happy, happy. Any baby fever? Eh, not really. Still being asked the most obnoxious question of my life, constantly bombarded with tons of confused comments because they don’t understand me, and why there’s no sign of pregnancy yet. It’s like a broken record at every family/friend function. “When are you going to have kids?” Geez, I just got engaged! What about “When’s the wedding?” That seems to be the most appropriate question to ask someone who just got engaged, right?

The questions and comments about babies were overflowing and coming in strong, and I mean strong. I can hear my grandmother saying “You don’t have much time. What are you waiting for? Mija, your clock is ticking. You have to have kids soon. Pero porque no?” At this point I’m suffocating… my anxiety is in full effect. I start overthinking things. All the what ifs are pouring down on me… drowning me. My inner Hannah Horvath from Girls kicks in – because yeah my brain functions just like Hannah’s. GEORGE HATES ITI come across articles online about tragedies that have happened to people. OMG, what if something happens to me? What if something happens to George? Life IS short. Should I freeze my eggs just in case? Now I’m in full barf mode. Overthinking EVERYTHING. Feeling so stressed, pressured, emotional, frustrated. Thinking of the absolute worse. Paranoid about everything – even what seems impossible to happen in real life. Do you guys remember the movie Get Out, the scene when Missy Armitage is hypnotizing Chris and he’s falling down this never-ending black hole…? Yeah, well that is how I feel when the baby subject comes up.

2016: Another year older. Happily Married, but still no baby(s). Baby fever? Maybe. Ok, slow down. Everyone, calm down. I said maybe. But then it quickly goes away. FINALLY, some got the hint and backed off… I said some.

2017: Change of heart? Desire to be a mother yet? Any chance of baby fever? Yes. Sure. Maybe. And not because I allowed everyone around me to get inside my head or let anyone convince me to have a change of heart. No one made this decision for me. People sometimes change their minds. And that’s ok. I was never completely against having children. I know I mentioned earlier that I had no intentions of having children because that is how I felt at the time. Now fast forward to today – things are slightly different. It’s called being a human.

 

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Ok, here’s my advice on this baby topic…

Something that I think everyone should be mindful of is that it’s not easy for everyone to get pregnant, so be careful when it comes to this topic. Don’t make assumptions under any circumstances. If you’re out with your girlfriends and notice your friend isn’t drinking, don’t right away jump to conclusions and assume she’s pregnant. She may or may not be pregnant. Maybe she’s on a diet or on medication that doesn’t allow her to drink alcohol. Maybe she’s struggling with fertility that she may not be ready to speak about. Or maybe she’s just not drinking because she simply doesn’t feel like it. Stop. Asking. 21. Questions. 

I guess what I’m trying to say is – to be mindful, think before you speak because these insensitive remarks, harmful questions & pressure, can be hurtful. You never know what someone is going through whether or not they want children. If they want children – great. If they don’t want children – great. Leave it at that. End of story. Change the subject. The end. PERIOD. If people do not want to have children – don’t ask why not. If people do want children but don’t have any yet – don’t ask why not. Stop speculating! Everyone is entitled to live their life their own way. It’s not your life to decide for others on how they should live theirs. Be respectful. Respect their privacy and decisions. Don’t make assumptions either. Just like it’s someone’s choice to try and get pregnant, it’s their choice not to. Stop judging.

Ok, end rant because I’m exhausted.

I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this topic. If you have any stories or input on this, feel free to comment below. 🙂

 

xo

 

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How to Juggle Blog Life and Real Life….

Really wish I could say “OMG, it’s SOOO easy. All you have to do is this, this, and that!”  Wish it were as easy as snapping my fingers. That would honestly be amazing and make my life easier, LOL.

Balancing work and play isn’t that easy but you have to always keep in mind to find a happy medium, especially with family and friends.

How to Juggle Blog Life and Real Life

This is how I juggle both my blog life and really life, that have actually helped me stay sane….

  • I try to get all my work done before George gets home from work, so that I can be present and give him my full attention.
  • I always work my schedule around his. On his days off, I will make sure to clear my schedule, whether it’s skipping events (unless it’s a campaign) or scheduling my meetings and appointments on days he’s working.
  • I make sure my blog and social media content is scheduled and done at the beginning of the week so that it is less stressful when I’m trying to do real life things outside of blogging.
  • When I get campaigns while I’m traveling with George, I like to get them out of the way by shooting all content early in the morning, so that we can enjoy the rest of the day, and enjoy each other’s company.
  • I often meet with my blogger friends to shoot content together so that when I’m spending time with family and friends, I don’t bother them for a photo.
  • I always make a list of things I need to get done. What’s important and what can wait. Prioritizing is key.

Sure, things come up and don’t always work out the way you expect them to, but what I’ve learned is having a plan is VERY helpful, and makes your life so much easier.

Besides, happy hubby, happy….

Wait, I don’t think that’s how it goes. 😉

xo

December 19th 2014 | Engaged

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If you follow me on instagram @melrodstyle, you may have heard the wonderful news. We’re engaged!!!

It still feels so surreal, and I cannot even describe the feeling I felt that very moment and the feeling I am still feeling right this very moment.

Words cannot express my love for my “fiance” ( I’ll have to get use to that). I didn’t plan to announce through social media or to even create a post about this but it felt right for me to share my thoughts, my feelings, my emotions.

So today, I am typing this post as thoughts come to mind, with no plan whatsoever…. a letter from my heart  – to my love, my future husband.

As I am writing this, my eyes are filled with tears… happy tears.

To my love,

Where do I even begin…

It still blows my mind that after 12 years of knowing you, we are where we are today. I knew from a very early stage of our relationship that I wanted to be with you forever. I want to be 80 years old with you, be in our little home – old and grey with you. Our lives together have been filled with good times, bad times, the best times, and some sad times but I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. I love our moments and all the memories we have together that we can look back on and reminisce today. The love I have for you is greater than anything in this world, greater than me. I love you so much, I don’t know what I would do without you. I cannot imagine my life without you in it. What we have is so special to me. I’m so happy. You make me happy. No one will ever understand us. You bring the best out of me. You are so patient. You always know how to cheer me up when I’m having a bad day. You always bring me back to life. You always have the right words to say when I’m not feeling my best. How could I ever live without you? You are the best person I know. How did I become so lucky?  I use to always say that I’m not a lucky person. I never win anything. I have the worst luck… But that’s not true. I am lucky. I did win. God sent you to me for a reason. You were brought into my path for a reason. You are my soulmate – you really are. How did I get so lucky to share my life with someone that I love more than myself. Someone that completes me. Someone who makes me sooooo happy. Someone who makes me laugh, allows me to be me – that silly, sarcastic, witty and crazy girl. Thank you for being you. For being so caring, loving, understanding, the best partner to me, for always being so supportive of me, for being so comforting. And most importantly, thank you for loving me. I love you so much my love, and I am beyond excited to start this new chapter with you.

xo

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photos by: Joann (the babe standing next to me).

Let’s face it we all want to look good while working out because when you look cute, you feel good and want to perform better. Well Colosseum does just that. Their activewear is both fashionable and functional. I must say it is the most comfortable activewear I own to date! I’m a huge fan of their sports bras (feels like you have nothing on)! Here is what I wore on my hike.

xo

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