Adulting is hard, that’s something we all know and are well aware of. After high school, you go off to college, meet new friends or dorm-mates, then get ready for the big world – corporate.
When they say you often don’t stay friends with the people you went to high school with, I thought they were crazy. I laughed in fact. I never thought this could be true. I still keep in touch with a few of my best friends from grade school (so blessed and thankful for that), but definitely lost some that I thought I would never. Most of my close friends now are either George’s best friend’s significant other, coworkers turned friends, blogger friends, or my sisters and cousins… they count as friends, right?!
Please note that this blogpost is no way of me encouraging others to have more friends. I’m perfectly fine with the friends I currently have (I’d rather have less true friendships than a lot of fake ones), however; if you are looking to expand your network of friends or just moved to a new town or are getting ready to have a baby (like me), and want to network with girls who share similar interests as you, then keep on reading.
I’ve complied a few tips on how to make friends as an adult. Hope you enjoy.
JOIN CLUBS OR ATTEND A NETWORKING EVENT: Whether it’s joining a book club, or a facebook group chat, or attending a network event – this is an easy way to network and have meet ups in your area.
HOST A BRUNCH OR A PARTY: Invite a few of your gal pals and tell them to bring a friend. The more the better.
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF SOCIAL MEDIA: Utilize the many different social media platforms that are out there and start engaging with people that share mutual hobbies or interests you do.
TAKE A CLASS: Maybe take a yoga class or a cooking class. These are ways to expand your circle of friends.
HAPPY HOUR WITH COWORKERS: Work is one of the most popular places to make long lasting friendships. I speak for myself as many of my friends now are people I once worked with. Hit up happy hour after work.
It’s so easy to get distracted from having a productive week or to find motivation or inspiration to get you back on track. If it’s one thing I’ve learned is not only setting goals for myself but having a better week schedule that I actually follow. Here are 7 steps for preparing abetter week schedule that has helped me have a better week.
SUNDAY: Still have your Sunday Funday, but spend sometime planning out your entire week (Monday-Saturday). Whether it’s bringing out your planner to start writing your ideas or writing down a list of goals you’d like to accomplish. I suggest setting weekly goals rather than a bigger goal that will most likely take you longer to achieve. It’ll be easier to tackle small weekly goals. You’ll definitely feel more accomplished and good about yourself once you achieve them. Maybe it’s cleaning out your closet you’ve been dreading and avoiding for the past month or so, or eating healthier and cutting out specific foods out of your diet, or making your bed every morning. Whatever those goals are, they are all important and mean something to you, so make it a point to tackle at least one this week.
MONDAY: Although Mondays are usually the busiest day of the week, it’s also the most difficult day to get our of that “funk”, and get back on track. Work on your vision. Start creating new Pinterest boards and get inspired for the rest of the week. Imagining how you want your life to be, plays a huge part in actually creating that life. This is also the perfect time to finally start reading that book you purchased, but haven’t even flipped through the pages yet. Make time to squeeze a workout session, whether it’s going to the gym or finding a fitness video on YouTube – or simply meditating (indoor or outdoor).
TUESDAY: Meet a friend for coffee or brunch, and pick her brain if you’re feeling stuck in a rut or lack of motivation. Sometimes talking to a friend helps the brain wheels going. Tackle one of your tasks/goals you had set for yourself this week. You don’t have to complete it, just as long as you start.
WEDNESDAY: Mid-weeks are usually for winding down. Make today about you. Read a book, bring out your exfoliating/sheet masks and have a little spa day at home, or just Netflix & chill. You can probably do all three.
THURSDAY: Get back to work, and finish that goal you set for the week. Try to finish it today, that way you can cross it off your list and begin a new goal the following week.
FRIDAY: This day is usually for going out and partying it up. That’s fine, too. Maybe hang with family or do girls night. Be social today and do something fun.
SATURDAY: Get your place in order: clean, laundry, groceries, etc. Run your errands today.
I hope these tips help you have a better week and a more successful one. I hope you guys enjoyed my 7 tips that have helped me.
Why do we dread Mondays so much? Why is it that we are always looking forward to Fridays and the weekend rather than the beginning of the week, like Mondays? I think it’s because our minds are trained to believe that the weekends are always the best, but I also think it’s because we lack a little motivation in our lives. Could it be because we are slightly or overly unhappy with what we’re doing in life: career-wise, hate my boss, wish I didn’t have to come into work, etc…?
Here are 5 ways to make Monday your favorite day. These tips have actually helped me look forward to a fresh week and the first week of a new week, Monday.
TREAT YOURSELF TO A DELICIOUS MEAL: Why wait until the weekend to have brunch with friends. Go with a friend, relative or even alone and splurge a little on yourself.
DO SOMETHING YOU’D NORMALLY NEVER DO ON MONDAYS: Go to the beach or try a new activity, like yoga, paddle boarding or take a class. Pick up a new hobby or face a fear.
NEW WEEK, NEW YOU: It’s normal to get stuck in a rut or to feel uninspired, but it’s important to know that no matter what you are going through, there is no one in this whole wide world like you. Know your worth. If you’re feeling insecure about something or wanting something, but your insecurities are holding you back, then you better tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to kick rocks! A new week means a fresh start. A fresh start to do something new or to finally work on those goals you’ve been wanting to achieve. Literally take those ‘new week, new you’ words to heart and do something. Get a journal or a notepad and begin writing down a list of things you want to accomplish this week, or a list of goals you’d like to begin working on. Find your passion. Whatever they are, jot them down and make it a point to at least cross one off your list each week. It’ll motivate you to keep going once you’ve seen progress.
MAKE MORE ‘ME TIME’: and make it a priority. We often get so caught up with work or stress over things that really don’t matter, and forget to switch the off button. I know because that’s me. I’m 100% guilty of this. Some things in life are out of our control, but one thing that we do have control of, is our mind. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to train your brain. Calm down, take a moment, breathe and relax. At the end of the day, no one is going to take care of you like you, so make sure you take time for yourself. Maybe it’s staying offline for a day, or spending more time with family or friends you haven’t seen in awhile, being more present or living more in the moment than spending time on your phone. I actually need to be better at this one myself. It’s important to make space for offline moments in your life.
I hope these 5 tips help you look forward to more Mondays than usual. 🙂
By now you’ve probably heard the news on social media. WE’RE PREGNANT! We’re going to have a baby! We’re going to be parents (woo hoo!) There’s legit a tiny human growing in my belly right now, and that to me is the most craziest most amazing feeling in the world. We cannot be anymore excited. I don’t even know where to begin. When we found out, all types of feelings were felt. Very emotional, because we found out a little after a week of us losing our baby Kujo. Both George and I literally cried because we both were thinking the same thing – that this was God. I guess you can say it was a blessing in disguise and a bitter sweet moment for us because I don’t know how I would be if we lost Kujo during this time. But I know Kujo is in a better place, and he lived a very long and happy life, and I will always be his furry momma.
I’ve been receiving a lot of questions, and so many comments from a lot of you on social media because this was a huge surprise. Many of you did not see this coming. So in this post – the first official baby blogpost of 2018, I will share a few questions I’ve received, what I learned, along with my first trimester experience.
MORNING SICKNESS – Not everyone gets it, and I am so thankful I was one of them. I think this was a big reason why it was easy for me to hide my pregnancy news, because I actually felt great. The only thing I did notice was how strong my sense of smell got. For instance, the smell of wet dog food… barf! It was definitely stronger than I remembered it being. Besides that though, I felt just fine. Going to the gym really helped keep my energy up. Again, very thankful that I was able to work out. And yes, my doctor approved my workout routine. In fact, they encouraged me to work out. Apparently there are so many benefits, along with an easier delivery experience. So you bet ya sweet butt, momma is going to do squats! 😉
CRAVINGS – I didn’t have any specific cravings. Just randomly would crave pho and veggie soup, and one time french toast, like whoa! I’ve been asked how I’m doing without drinking coffee, since we all know how I love my lattes and what not. Surprisingly, I haven’t been craving coffee, and I’ve been ok without it. I’ll treat myself to a latte here and there, but always get a small cup. When I do crave a cup of coffee, I make myself a Nespresso decaf coffee, and honestly, it’s just as good.
OTHER SYMPTOMS – When they said you pee every 5 seconds, they weren’t kidding. No joke! I pee even when I don’t feel like I have to pee, but I’ll go just in case, before leaving the house (TMI). The bloating, sore boobies, itchy belly are also even more real. I also, was having the most bizarre dreams and nightmares. I could not even explain them if I tried. Some were scary, some were sad – really sad. None of them ever made sense. I also have trouble sleeping at night and taking naps. Sometimes I felt tired, but couldn’t nap. I’m a horrible napper.
COUVADE – also known as sympathetic pregnancy for men. Oh yeah, it’s a thing ladies. George definitely felt some type of way during my first trimester. He felt tired, certain foods made him nauseas. He didn’t gain weight though (insert eye rolling emoji here). I didn’t even know this was a thing.
FEAR OF MISCARRYING – It’s real and I felt this so hard. I was so afraid that this would happen, because of all the stories you hear. I think it’s pretty natural and normal to feel this way, and for the word miscarriage to run through your head period.
FELT ALONE – because we kept our pregnancy news to ourselves. I had so many questions. I couldn’t ask my family or friends because George and I decided to wait until our second trimester to tell our family. So I googled EVERYTHING, and when I mean everything, I mean from sentences not even making sense to words that I’m so embarrassed for anyone to find on my history page – lol. Luckily, I downloaded my very first baby app (insert cheesy emoji here).
Lastly, thank you to everyone for all the sweet comments, direct messages, text messages, phone calls, visits. They truly mean a lot to us. We feel so loved, we feel the love, and feel so much love for this little nugget already. I cannot wait to be a mom and for this new life George and I will have. I cannot wait to begin this journey and share it with you all. If you have any questions or want to share your stories with us, please do. Comment below or DM on Instagram.
Any moms out there that have any tips for this new momma to be, please do share. I’d love to hear any tips and advice you can give. Also, any soon to be moms out there, I would love to hear from you, too.
It still feels so surreal. Like, is this really happening? Holy cow! Sh*t just got real!
And just like that, 2017 has come to an end (cue the tears). As I think to myself, and look back on the good, the bad, and the ugly, I must say this year was one to remember. Reflecting on the amazing moments, the heartaches, the loss, new memories made, what 2017 is going to bring 2018, I really don’t know how I truly feel about this year. I can’t say it was the worse year.
What I can say about 2017, is that I am thankful, grateful, blessed for all the opportunities that have come my way, for being able to live through another year.
I usually don’t make resolutions – not because I can never keep them, but because everything that happens in life happens for a reason, whether explained or not. These are either blessings or lessons. What I do like to do each year is just try to be a better me the following year, and to continue to do good in this world. I’ll be the first to say, I’m not a perfect person (but who is, am I right?) I’m far from it. I have many flaws, countless flaws, I make mistakes, but I also make good choices. And I think that’s ok.
This year, George and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. I still cannot believe that it has been over a year that we’ve been married. Time sure does fly when you’re having fun.
I got to travel to new places and revisit some old ones.
We lost our baby Kujo this year, which was probably the most difficult thing that has happened in my life. I miss him terribly. George and I were not prepared for 2017 to be the last year with him.
I celebrated one year of being my own boss. That’s kind of cool.
And the most amazing thing happened to George and I. We found out that we would be parents in 2018. That’s really really cool! We still cannot believe it and are beyond excited about the news. More baby stuff to come soon.
Lastly, I’d like to thank all my readers and internet friends for the continuous support of MelRodStyle. You guys are truly the best fam a gal can ever ask for. Thank you for supporting my blog and social media outlets. Thank you for following my journey, and I hope you continue to stay along for the ride, because 2018 is going to be a wild one!
Cheers and Happy New Year! 2018 is going to be LIT!!!
When are you having kids? Do you want any kids? How many do you want? OMG you would be an amazing mom though. Why not?! You HAVE to have kids. Don’t be selfish! That’s not fair. Clock’s ticking. You’re not getting any younger. Well my coworker’s friend Susan has been trying to have children and she’s been having a hard time getting pregnant. Mel, what’s going to happen if you can’t get pregnant?
O M G!!! OMFG! Stop! Leave me alone! Can I live?! Story of my life.
You don’t hear me saying “When are you going to get rid of that “baby weight”, Cheryl? Jacob’s almost 5?” Most will disagree with me on this comment, and say it’s totally not the same. If you really think about it though, it kind of is. Just like most would feel offended to be pressured into losing weight, most feel the same about getting pregnant. You do not know what that person is going through or their struggles- if any. Whether your intentions mean well or not, it usually comes off that way. Call it what you want to call it, but most people take this baby topic so lightly as it is no big deal to just blurt out “when are you having kids” and put in your two cents that “you’re not getting any younger” “clock is ticking” as If I was born yesterday. “No s*** Helen. I had no idea I was getting older every year. Thank goodness I have you to remind me otherwise, what on earth would I do?!”
I’m going to get into the most exhausting, annoying, eye-rolling topic of my life. This whole baby talk has been weighing over me for what seems like forever, and I want to share my thoughts and address it. So have a seat. Get comfortable. Stay awhile because it’s going to be a long one.
Ready? Ok, let’s get into it… Let’s talk babies, shall we.
Taking it back to high school: Everyone around me seemed to have had it all figured out. “Once I find the one, we’re going to get married and have kids right away because I want to be a young mom.” – God forbid you’re 30 and barely having your first child. OMG so old! (insert eye-rolling emoji here).
Most girls have that first-comes-love-then-comes-marriage mentality and think that, that is how everyone should live by. I disagree. Why can’t people live their entire lives without children? And not be called selfish? Why do people assume you have to have children once you’re married? Who said this is the way everyone needs to live their life? Why can’t being in a relationship with or without children be the norm? Without having that shocking look on your face as if something terrible just happened? Why is it so frowned upon? WHY?
Fast forward to college: Still not a clue in the world as to what I was doing. Clueless college student? Pretty normal if you ask me. Trying to figure out what I’m doing – career-wise, relationship-wise, etc… Still no desire to be a mother – quite possibly the only thing I was certain of… Is that so wrong? Don’t get me wrong children are awesome, but I had zero intention to have them. I never had that motherly instinct nor desire to have one. What is wrong with me? Is something wrong with me?
2014: Engaged. Over the moon. Happy, happy, happy. Any baby fever? Eh, not really. Still being asked the most obnoxious question of my life, constantly bombarded with tons of confused comments because they don’t understand me, and why there’s no sign of pregnancy yet. It’s like a broken record at every family/friend function. “When are you going to have kids?” Geez, I just got engaged! What about “When’s the wedding?” That seems to be the most appropriate question to ask someone who just got engaged, right?
The questions and comments about babies were overflowing and coming in strong, and I mean strong. I can hear my grandmother saying “You don’t have much time. What are you waiting for? Mija, your clock is ticking. You have to have kids soon. Pero porque no?” At this point I’m suffocating… my anxiety is in full effect. I start overthinking things. All the what ifs are pouring down on me… drowning me. My inner Hannah Horvath from Girls kicks in – because yeah my brain functions just like Hannah’s. GEORGE HATES IT. I come across articles online about tragedies that have happened to people. OMG, what if something happens to me? What if something happens to George? Life IS short. Should I freeze my eggs just in case? Now I’m in full barf mode. Overthinking EVERYTHING. Feeling so stressed, pressured, emotional, frustrated. Thinking of the absolute worse. Paranoid about everything – even what seems impossible to happen in real life. Do you guys remember the movie Get Out, the scene when Missy Armitage is hypnotizing Chris and he’s falling down this never-ending black hole…? Yeah, well that is how I feel when the baby subject comes up.
2016: Another year older. Happily Married, but still no baby(s). Baby fever? Maybe. Ok, slow down. Everyone, calm down. I said maybe. But then it quickly goes away. FINALLY, some got the hint and backed off… I said some.
2017: Change of heart? Desire to be a mother yet? Any chance of baby fever? Yes. Sure. Maybe. And not because I allowed everyone around me to get inside my head or let anyone convince me to have a change of heart. No one made this decision for me. People sometimes change their minds. And that’s ok. I was never completely against having children. I know I mentioned earlier that I had no intentions of having children because that is how I felt at the time. Now fast forward to today – things are slightly different. It’s called being a human.
Ok, here’s my advice on this baby topic…
Something that I think everyone should be mindful of is that it’s not easy for everyone to get pregnant, so be careful when it comes to this topic. Don’t make assumptions under any circumstances. If you’re out with your girlfriends and notice your friend isn’t drinking, don’t right away jump to conclusions and assume she’s pregnant. She may or may not be pregnant. Maybe she’s on a diet or on medication that doesn’t allow her to drink alcohol. Maybe she’s struggling with fertility that she may not be ready to speak about. Or maybe she’s just not drinking because she simply doesn’t feel like it. Stop. Asking. 21. Questions.
I guess what I’m trying to say is – to be mindful, think before you speak because these insensitive remarks, harmful questions & pressure, can be hurtful. You never know what someone is going through whether or not they want children. If they want children – great. If they don’t want children – great. Leave it at that. End of story. Change the subject. The end. PERIOD. If people do not want to have children – don’t ask why not. If people do want children but don’t have any yet – don’t ask why not. Stop speculating! Everyone is entitled to live their life their own way. It’s not your life to decide for others on how they should live theirs. Be respectful. Respect their privacy and decisions. Don’t make assumptions either. Just like it’s someone’s choice to try and get pregnant, it’s their choice not to. Stop judging.
Ok, end rant because I’m exhausted.
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this topic. If you have any stories or input on this, feel free to comment below. 🙂
Completely off subject, but if you want to shop my outfit, all links are listed down below… lol!
Really wish I could say “OMG, it’s SOOO easy. All you have to do is this, this, and that!” Wish it were as easy as snapping my fingers. That would honestly be amazing and make my life easier, LOL.
Balancing work and play isn’t that easy but you have to always keep in mind to find a happy medium, especially with family and friends.
This is how I juggle both my blog life and really life, that have actually helped me stay sane….
I try to get all my work done before George gets home from work, so that I can be present and give him my full attention.
I always work my schedule around his. On his days off, I will make sure to clear my schedule, whether it’s skipping events (unless it’s a campaign) or scheduling my meetings and appointments on days he’s working.
I make sure my blog and social media content is scheduled and done at the beginning of the week so that it is less stressful when I’m trying to do real life things outside of blogging.
When I get campaigns while I’m traveling with George, I like to get them out of the way by shooting all content early in the morning, so that we can enjoy the rest of the day, and enjoy each other’s company.
I often meet with my blogger friends to shoot content together so that when I’m spending time with family and friends, I don’t bother them for a photo.
I always make a list of things I need to get done. What’s important and what can wait. Prioritizing is key.
Sure, things come up and don’t always work out the way you expect them to, but what I’ve learned is having a plan is VERY helpful, and makes your life so much easier.
So here we are, witnessing the aftermath of what was the best day of my life. Although there were thousands of photos to go through (that were just as amazing as these that didn’t make this post), I decided to share a few that I felt really captured those special moments.
Where do I begin to share about the most magical day of my entire life… The morning started off rather nerve-wrecking for me because of the weather, which I go in full detail on this post here.
The ceremony was short and sweet – exactly how we had pictured it to be. We really wanted a garden theme wedding, so having an outdoor wedding for both ceremony and reception was on the “must-have” list.
After our wedding photos, our wedding party including our parents held sparklers as we made our grand entrance into the reception. We walked into our first dance, followed by the traditional dances (FOB and MOG dance), to food, to speeches, to dancing, to cake cutting, to dancing some more, to taking photos in the photo booth, to more dancing, etc. We danced the entire night. I don’t think I even sat down for more than 5 minutes, which I am so happy about.
They say your wedding comes and goes before you know it. Enjoy it while you can because it goes so fast you don’t remember anything. Well, I beg to differ because both my husband and I remember every single part of our wedding and I cannot tell you how truly happy I am about that. That was so important for us – to remember every moment and to fully enjoy the night. And we sure did.
I was beyond blessed to have had my beautiful sisters (bridesmaids), mom, and of course the best wedding planner – Harlow Planning, by my side to make sure this day was perfect. And it truly was. It was beautiful. My dream wedding really came to life. I cannot even put it into words how incredible this day was for me… for my husband. This day will forever be so sacred in my heart.
If you follow me on instagram @melrodstyle, you may have heard the wonderful news. We’re engaged!!!
It still feels so surreal, and I cannot even describe the feeling I felt that very moment and the feeling I am still feeling right this very moment.
Words cannot express my love for my “fiance” ( I’ll have to get use to that). I didn’t plan to announce through social media or to even create a post about this but it felt right for me to share my thoughts, my feelings, my emotions.
So today, I am typing this post as thoughts come to mind, with no plan whatsoever…. a letter from my heart – to my love, my future husband.
As I am writing this, my eyes are filled with tears… happy tears.
To my love,
Where do I even begin…
It still blows my mind that after 12 years of knowing you, we are where we are today. I knew from a very early stage of our relationship that I wanted to be with you forever. I want to be 80 years old with you, be in our little home – old and grey with you. Our lives together have been filled with good times, bad times, the best times, and some sad times but I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way. I love our moments and all the memories we have together that we can look back on and reminisce today. The love I have for you is greater than anything in this world, greater than me. I love you so much, I don’t know what I would do without you. I cannot imagine my life without you in it. What we have is so special to me. I’m so happy. You make me happy. No one will ever understand us. You bring the best out of me. You are so patient. You always know how to cheer me up when I’m having a bad day. You always bring me back to life. You always have the right words to say when I’m not feeling my best. How could I ever live without you? You are the best person I know. How did I become so lucky? I use to always say that I’m not a lucky person. I never win anything. I have the worst luck… But that’s not true. I am lucky. I did win. God sent you to me for a reason. You were brought into my path for a reason. You are my soulmate – you really are. How did I get so lucky to share my life with someone that I love more than myself. Someone that completes me. Someone who makes me sooooo happy. Someone who makes me laugh, allows me to be me – that silly, sarcastic, witty and crazy girl. Thank you for being you. For being so caring, loving, understanding, the best partner to me, for always being so supportive of me, for being so comforting. And most importantly, thank you for loving me. I love you so much my love, and I am beyond excited to start this new chapter with you.