And just like that, 2017 has come to an end (cue the tears). As I think to myself, and look back on the good, the bad, and the ugly, I must say this year was one to remember. Reflecting on the amazing moments, the heartaches, the loss, new memories made, what 2017 is going to bring 2018, I really don’t know how I truly feel about this year. I can’t say it was the worse year.
What I can say about 2017, is that I am thankful, grateful, blessed for all the opportunities that have come my way, for being able to live through another year.
I usually don’t make resolutions – not because I can never keep them, but because everything that happens in life happens for a reason, whether explained or not. These are either blessings or lessons. What I do like to do each year is just try to be a better me the following year, and to continue to do good in this world. I’ll be the first to say, I’m not a perfect person (but who is, am I right?) I’m far from it. I have many flaws, countless flaws, I make mistakes, but I also make good choices. And I think that’s ok.
This year, George and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. I still cannot believe that it has been over a year that we’ve been married. Time sure does fly when you’re having fun.
I got to travel to new places and revisit some old ones.
We lost our baby Kujo this year, which was probably the most difficult thing that has happened in my life. I miss him terribly. George and I were not prepared for 2017 to be the last year with him.
I celebrated one year of being my own boss. That’s kind of cool.
And the most amazing thing happened to George and I. We found out that we would be parents in 2018. That’s really really cool! We still cannot believe it and are beyond excited about the news. More baby stuff to come soon.
Lastly, I’d like to thank all my readers and internet friends for the continuous support of MelRodStyle. You guys are truly the best fam a gal can ever ask for. Thank you for supporting my blog and social media outlets. Thank you for following my journey, and I hope you continue to stay along for the ride, because 2018 is going to be a wild one!
Cheers and Happy New Year! 2018 is going to be LIT!!!
Today’s blogpost is different than what I normally share on my blog, but I definitely wanted to share as I feel this topic is very important, especially as an influencer and being my own boss. So listen up bloggers, influencers, entrepreneurs, millennials, business owners, etc. This topic actually applies to everyone, honestly. Have a seat, stay awhile because you’re going to want to read about Joany.com.
If you are not already familiar with Joany or know what they do, allow me to introduce you to them. Joany.com is essentially an app that strives to help people navigate the mess of health care. In a perfect world, buying healthcare would be just as easy as buying anything in life, right? Well, that’s where Joany comes in – or better yet saves the day. They help people find the best insurance, doctors, prescriptions, and so much more without the hassle. Their mission at Joany is to make buying health insurance simple and very transparent at the most affordable price. Joany is solely focused on customer service, and are dedicated to provide a personal experience with the absolute most highest possible service that can be found anywhere in the world. Say what?! This is not a typo by the way. You are reading this correctly. I know when I first learned about them, I couldn’t believe it either. I mean, this is too good to be true, right?
As an influencer, especially after leaving my nine to five job to pursue blogging as a full time career, I knew that my benefits would change drastically. I knew that leaving my corporate job would mean no more insurance, and all the beautiful perks that come with working for a corporate company. This was a huge reason why it was difficult for me to leave my job because what was I going to do with no insurance? One must ALWAYS think of all the what ifs, because I had no clue what I would do without healthcare insurance. These are some of the things that most bloggers do not talk about, but I felt the need to share this with all my followers/readers, including other entrepreneurs and bloggers in case there was someone out there that was looking for better healthcare options. Finding the right healthcare insurance is such a drag, which is why I wanted to talk about Joany.com, and help spread awareness that there is a better option in finding the right healthcare for you. Joany makes it super easy and convenient for us entrepreneurs.
So, now that you know a little more about Joany and what they offer, be sure to visit them online and register. Right now they’re offering $50 to people who qualify for their research study which gives you access to their healthcare concierge service. If you already have health insurance, Joany can help you answer tons of questions about your plan. If you don’t have health insurance, open enrollment is just around the corner and they can help you find a plan so make sure you sign up! Joany values the input they receive, which is why they compensate people for helping them improve this unique service. I think this is so awesome.
Going off the usual fashion topics here, and talking all about my little ones. I previously mentioned my little big family in my 20 Fun Facts About Me post, but wanted to share a little more about them since you get to see a glimpse of my personal life on Insta stories. Thought it only made sense since I share my babies with you guys quite often on the gram (@melrodstyle).
When George and I moved in together, we instantly became The Brady Bunch.
Tootsie: (My dog) My little 12 year old baby, the queen, the one who runs the backyard world, the feistiest little nugget you’ll ever meet. I’ve had her since she was only a few weeks old. Her and Kujo grew up together, so they’re besties for the restie. Tootsie was originally my sister’s dog, but she couldn’t keep her.
Kujo: (My dog) The only boy from the bunch, my old little man. He’s also 12 – going on 13 this year. He’s the sweetest, but most stubborn lil dude I’ve ever met. I’ve also had him since he was a puppy – he use to fit on the palm of my hand. Kujo was originally my sister’s dog as well, but wasn’t able to keep him. I technically wouldn’t have any dogs if my sister didn’t give me Tootsie and Kujo. Also, I know most are thinking “why the name Kujo?” “Is he a vicious dog?” The answer is I don’t know and no he is not a mean dog. He’s Kujo with a K not Cujo like the movie… lol.
Hennessy: (George’s dog) My little lady. She’s the calmest from the group. Very chill and friendly. She’s also up there in age. She likes to pick on Tootsie from time to time, but she wouldn’t hurt a fly. If anything Tootsie is the one who has nipped her a few times (smh). She was originally George’s cousin’s dog, but due to moving they couldn’t keep her. Same with her. We didn’t give her the name Hennessy, she already had that name when George took her in.
Boo Boo Kitty: (George’s cat) The sassiest of them all. The one who truly runs my world. She’s very independent, doesn’t like to cuddle (only on her terms), also senior. Her routine consists of sleeping, eating, pooping, sleeping, meowing my ear off to feed her tuna, and sleeping. She loves sleeping on our stomach or back depending on how we’re laying down. She doesn’t like children. She hides whenever our nieces and nephews come over. She was originally George’s sister’s cat, but couldn’t keep her due to developing some allergies. See a pattern here? When we first moved in together, Boo Boo was not a fan of me AT ALL. She treated me like I was her stepmom (lol). No, but seriously she did, but that didn’t last for long. She warmed up to me and started coming around. Now we’re besties and always likes to sleep on my lap.
Marley: (Our dog together) The puppy. The most playful and hyper one. She’s almost 2. Like Hennessy, she also likes to pick on Tootsie. George and I rescued her from a shelter last year. So basically, if my sister kept Tootsie and Kujo, and if George’s cousin and sister kept Hennessy and Boo Boo, we’d only have one dog – Marley.
We didn’t name any of the babies, except Marley.
Marley has yet to meet face to face with Boo Boo. Not sure how that would work out so trying to avoid that interaction from ever happening.
Boo Boo doesn’t use a kitty litter. She’s like a dog. She will scratch our closet door when she wants to go outside, and she’ll scratch the front door to come back in. She’s literally the best cat ever.
Tootsie is deadly afraid of Boo Boo.
Hennessy was once attacked by a raccoon – sad story but true.
Kujo loves to shake hands.
Whoa major info. overload. Well there you have it. A little more about my little big family.
If you guys have any questions or want to know more about my babies, feel free to comment below. Also, if there are any topics you’d like me to blog about, let me know. 🙂
I’m an LA girl, and although I’ve called LA my home since I could remember, there is so much to see, places to visit, food & drinks to enjoy that I still have yet to visit… you name it! So when Farfetch invited me to join them on an LA adventure, I couldn’t resist.
There were three blogger groups. My group met at the cutest most chic boutique: Loit, where we received a Farfetch gift, and had an on-site photographer for the entire day. Hashtag YASSS!
Followed by drinks and small bites at the Rosy Oyster. There was a complimentary piercing station, courtesy of J. Colby Smith’s Adrian D. Castillo.
I got two ear piercings, who am I?!
After that, we departed to meet the rest of the bloggers at the Marciano Art Foundation.
FINAL STOP… last, but not least.
We ended the evening at Mama Shelter, and got glammed by the Glam Squad right before dinner. Dinner was beyond amazing!
I had an amazing time. It was fun-filled adventurous day with Farfetch.
If you are ever in LA or visiting for a few days, I highly recommend visiting all these places.
Thank you to the Farfetch team for the wonderful experience.
When are you having kids? Do you want any kids? How many do you want? OMG you would be an amazing mom though. Why not?! You HAVE to have kids. Don’t be selfish! That’s not fair. Clock’s ticking. You’re not getting any younger. Well my coworker’s friend Susan has been trying to have children and she’s been having a hard time getting pregnant. Mel, what’s going to happen if you can’t get pregnant?
O M G!!! OMFG! Stop! Leave me alone! Can I live?! Story of my life.
You don’t hear me saying “When are you going to get rid of that “baby weight”, Cheryl? Jacob’s almost 5?” Most will disagree with me on this comment, and say it’s totally not the same. If you really think about it though, it kind of is. Just like most would feel offended to be pressured into losing weight, most feel the same about getting pregnant. You do not know what that person is going through or their struggles- if any. Whether your intentions mean well or not, it usually comes off that way. Call it what you want to call it, but most people take this baby topic so lightly as it is no big deal to just blurt out “when are you having kids” and put in your two cents that “you’re not getting any younger” “clock is ticking” as If I was born yesterday. “No s*** Helen. I had no idea I was getting older every year. Thank goodness I have you to remind me otherwise, what on earth would I do?!”
I’m going to get into the most exhausting, annoying, eye-rolling topic of my life. This whole baby talk has been weighing over me for what seems like forever, and I want to share my thoughts and address it. So have a seat. Get comfortable. Stay awhile because it’s going to be a long one.
Ready? Ok, let’s get into it… Let’s talk babies, shall we.
Taking it back to high school: Everyone around me seemed to have had it all figured out. “Once I find the one, we’re going to get married and have kids right away because I want to be a young mom.” – God forbid you’re 30 and barely having your first child. OMG so old! (insert eye-rolling emoji here).
Most girls have that first-comes-love-then-comes-marriage mentality and think that, that is how everyone should live by. I disagree. Why can’t people live their entire lives without children? And not be called selfish? Why do people assume you have to have children once you’re married? Who said this is the way everyone needs to live their life? Why can’t being in a relationship with or without children be the norm? Without having that shocking look on your face as if something terrible just happened? Why is it so frowned upon? WHY?
Fast forward to college: Still not a clue in the world as to what I was doing. Clueless college student? Pretty normal if you ask me. Trying to figure out what I’m doing – career-wise, relationship-wise, etc… Still no desire to be a mother – quite possibly the only thing I was certain of… Is that so wrong? Don’t get me wrong children are awesome, but I had zero intention to have them. I never had that motherly instinct nor desire to have one. What is wrong with me? Is something wrong with me?
2014: Engaged. Over the moon. Happy, happy, happy. Any baby fever? Eh, not really. Still being asked the most obnoxious question of my life, constantly bombarded with tons of confused comments because they don’t understand me, and why there’s no sign of pregnancy yet. It’s like a broken record at every family/friend function. “When are you going to have kids?” Geez, I just got engaged! What about “When’s the wedding?” That seems to be the most appropriate question to ask someone who just got engaged, right?
The questions and comments about babies were overflowing and coming in strong, and I mean strong. I can hear my grandmother saying “You don’t have much time. What are you waiting for? Mija, your clock is ticking. You have to have kids soon. Pero porque no?” At this point I’m suffocating… my anxiety is in full effect. I start overthinking things. All the what ifs are pouring down on me… drowning me. My inner Hannah Horvath from Girls kicks in – because yeah my brain functions just like Hannah’s. GEORGE HATES IT. I come across articles online about tragedies that have happened to people. OMG, what if something happens to me? What if something happens to George? Life IS short. Should I freeze my eggs just in case? Now I’m in full barf mode. Overthinking EVERYTHING. Feeling so stressed, pressured, emotional, frustrated. Thinking of the absolute worse. Paranoid about everything – even what seems impossible to happen in real life. Do you guys remember the movie Get Out, the scene when Missy Armitage is hypnotizing Chris and he’s falling down this never-ending black hole…? Yeah, well that is how I feel when the baby subject comes up.
2016: Another year older. Happily Married, but still no baby(s). Baby fever? Maybe. Ok, slow down. Everyone, calm down. I said maybe. But then it quickly goes away. FINALLY, some got the hint and backed off… I said some.
2017: Change of heart? Desire to be a mother yet? Any chance of baby fever? Yes. Sure. Maybe. And not because I allowed everyone around me to get inside my head or let anyone convince me to have a change of heart. No one made this decision for me. People sometimes change their minds. And that’s ok. I was never completely against having children. I know I mentioned earlier that I had no intentions of having children because that is how I felt at the time. Now fast forward to today – things are slightly different. It’s called being a human.
Ok, here’s my advice on this baby topic…
Something that I think everyone should be mindful of is that it’s not easy for everyone to get pregnant, so be careful when it comes to this topic. Don’t make assumptions under any circumstances. If you’re out with your girlfriends and notice your friend isn’t drinking, don’t right away jump to conclusions and assume she’s pregnant. She may or may not be pregnant. Maybe she’s on a diet or on medication that doesn’t allow her to drink alcohol. Maybe she’s struggling with fertility that she may not be ready to speak about. Or maybe she’s just not drinking because she simply doesn’t feel like it. Stop. Asking. 21. Questions.
I guess what I’m trying to say is – to be mindful, think before you speak because these insensitive remarks, harmful questions & pressure, can be hurtful. You never know what someone is going through whether or not they want children. If they want children – great. If they don’t want children – great. Leave it at that. End of story. Change the subject. The end. PERIOD. If people do not want to have children – don’t ask why not. If people do want children but don’t have any yet – don’t ask why not. Stop speculating! Everyone is entitled to live their life their own way. It’s not your life to decide for others on how they should live theirs. Be respectful. Respect their privacy and decisions. Don’t make assumptions either. Just like it’s someone’s choice to try and get pregnant, it’s their choice not to. Stop judging.
Ok, end rant because I’m exhausted.
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on this topic. If you have any stories or input on this, feel free to comment below. 🙂
Completely off subject, but if you want to shop my outfit, all links are listed down below… lol!
It’s clearly no surprise that Mexico has won my heart the past month or two. I’ve traveled to Mexico in the last couples of weeks more times than I have EVER. Don’t believe me? Click here, here,here… oh and here.
So when I had the opportunity to visit Puerto Vallarta (for the 2nd time in a month by the way), I instantly jumped at the thought. I practically already had my bags packed, totally kidding… kinda.
We stayed in the most charming, romantic, breathtaking, jaw-dropping… you name it. I can literally keep going…boutique hotel – Casa Kimberly. And when I mean charming and romantic, you would think Enocha and I were on our honeymoon. No, but in all seriousness, Casa Kimberly is the perfect place to stay for a quick romantic getaway, but also great for a girl’s trip. I wish I knew about this hotel before because George and I would’ve stayed here for our honeymoon in a heart beat. Not to mention, the food, the service and every detail of this place was just so spot on and amazing. Just talking about it makes me miss this place so much (insert crying emoji here).
Besides the GORGEOUS hotel, everything around the hotel was walking distance to the main spots in town. We were just a few blocks away from El Malecon and the beach… can it get any better than that?!
Puerto Vallarta, once again you blew my mind away!
As you know, I was recently in Puerto Vallarta for the second time this month… I know what you’re thinking.
I’m so happy I was able to partner with Primark during my trip because whenever I’m traveling somewhere warmer, I like to pack light and find ways to wear same items more than once. Having Primark in Puerto Vallarta made my trip/life a whole lot easier than usual, because I was able to wear some of these items more than once.
I love when you can use a one-piece bathing suit as a bodysuit under a pair of denim shorts.
This romper was perfect for a bikini coverup, which also doubled as pajamas. The comfiest to lounge in. 🙂
If you’re not familiar with Primark, then get to know them because they have the cutest stuff: from babe-worthy beach buys to street style wear. The best part is that their items are not only trendy, but they’re super affordable, too! Major WINNING!
For those who have never been to Cancun, I would definitely recommend visiting. The first time I visited Cancun was when I was a baby, so obviously I wasn’t able to appreciate it.
This time around we took a family trip, which was amazing! It’s always nice spending time with family, especially with my nieces. We stayed at the Oasis Resort, which is perfect for a family trip. If you’re not traveling with kids or family, I would suggest to stay somewhere else because this resort was very kid friendly. Nothing wrong with that but if that’s not your cup of tea, then definitely would suggest to stay at a different hotel.
Day 1: Straight from the plane, we went to the beautiful Isla Mujeres, where we took a boat ride around the island and into town to have lunch. We then went snorkeling and my nieces were able to swim with sharks (I was terrified to be honest).
Day 2: We spent the entire day at Xcaret, which was incredible. We visited the Xcaret park, where we saw flamingos, parrots, baby quails, fish of all kind, turtles, you name it. We had lunch right by the beach, then ended the night watching one of their amazing shows. Long day but so worth it.
Day 3: Our third day was very relaxing. We decided to just hang by the pool and beach. Unfortunately, we didn’t make it to Chichen Itza (original plans for day 3) because day 2 really wore us all out. So having a more chill day was definitely in order.
It was a very fun and very short trip for both George and I, but it was totally worth it.
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If you follow me on Instagram (@melrodstyle), you know that George and I recently celebrated our 1 year wedding anniversary in Puerto Vallarta. It was so much fun. We were able to celebrate with some of our dearest friends.
Our days were spent hanging by the pool, relaxing by the beach, enjoying cocktails after cocktails after cocktails… oh, and did I mention cocktails?! 😉 We had the best food, too by the way. Still thinking about that ceviche… mouthwatering.
We also got to go on a fun excursion and ride the razors around town, followed by a quick dip at a waterfall that lead to a river, and a tequila tasting.
I’ve listed the hotel information we stayed in below.